Parenting is so often about being with, sitting alongside ...
Would you believe me if I said parenting is an opportunity to exercise the be-ing muscles rather than the do-ing muscles?
If we think of strengthening being about building strength in synergies we don't use so much. Rather than doing more of what we can already do.
Of course life always demands the do-ers to do, washing, tidying, planning, organising, cooking. We will always need to manage these tasks.
What I have found, over and over as a parent, of a toddler (again) and a teenager- for the first time! (and as therapist over and over) is that life can miraculously handle all kinds of challenges when I get out of the way.
When I stop trying to manage and control everything, even the most complex problems can be solved with very little effort and sometimes no effort at all.
Life has repeatedly proven time and again to trust within me the wisdom of a higher plan. I just need to remember…
I’ve also realised that my “beingness” is a magnet for beauty, intimate encounters with strangers, vulnerable moments with those I love, and an ability to make a difference in the lives of others by offering less instead of more. Who knew doing so little could result in finding a way to make a contribution steeped in wisdom and experience rather than reactivity and history?
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